One of my good friends, Nadine married herself. Yes I said it. You may wonder how that’s possible. She sent me a link about a year ago to a website on how you can go about throwing yourself a wedding. She asked me if I would be a guest. I didn’t hesitate. Yes!
For a while it seemed forgotten. Then a couple of months ago I got an excited voice messaging saying the wedding was on and she asked me to be her photographer. My first time being a wedding photographer.
The ceremony was similar to a typical wedding but excluded the groom. The purpose of the wedding wasn’t to commit to another person. It was to commit to oneself. During the vows, Nadine repeated, “I promise to love myself like I love those whom I most treasure. I promise to kick my own ass when I need it and not expect others to do it for me. I promise to accept that I am totally responsible for my own happiness,” and so on.
In reality, we all want these things for ourselves too. Most of us decide not to go as far as marrying ourselves and treating ourselves good usually comes last. I respect Nadine for going through with the wedding even if there were some who didn’t support it. This wedding inspired me to treat myself with a little more kindness and to take responsibility for my happiness, like the vows said.
After the vows were said Nadine presented herself a ring that had significance to her. She uses this ring to remind her of the vows she promised herself. Several guests offered readings and funny stories to the bride. And, instead of the symbolic kiss to a husband, Nadine and the audience blew kisses to the whole world.
Nadine had over 40 close family and friends attend the wedding. Everyone there supported her, chanted with her and kissed the world with her in her yoga-New Orleans themed wedding. I was proud to be a part of her special day. <3
A reception included a couple of king cakes in traditional New Orleans fashion (the honeymoon choice of the bride). Guests chatted over cake, hot tea or coffee while they wandered through the ECCE art gallery in downtown Fargo.
To the brides surprise, the local paper caught wind of this unique wedding and wanted to feature it in the Fargo Forum. A couple of days later it made the front page. There has been a lot of media attention on this type of ceremony. Some people may find it silly but to me, it’s an inspiring way to show to the world that you love yourself.